You guys, I just can’t even, right now.
Go read that link.
CNN’s Candy Crowley, on reporting the guilty verdicts in the Steubenville rape case, bemoaned the loss of the men’s football careers. (And yes, I’m saying men, not boys. Because let’s not fucking pretend they were innocent little children committing rape, shall we?
Oh, and yes, I’m going to swear.)
When you — like Candy Crowley and alarming percentage of the town of Steubenville! — value the lives and careers of rapists over that of their victim, you are contributing to the rape culture.
When you blame the victim for being too drunk to consent, or for “putting herself in that situation,” you are contributing to the rape culture.
When you suggest that the girl who was raped is at fault for the football players not being able to toss around the pigskin anymore and oh noes their careers and their scholarships and the poor colleges who won’t have them on their teams, you are contributing to the rape culture. Also, bonus, you’re an asshole.
If you think the answer to this is to teach girls not to get drunk at parties instead of teaching boys not to rape, you are contributing to the rape culture.
If you are judging the victim on her inebriation, what she wore, where she was from, for going to the party in the first place, or not leaving soon enough, or not having a friend with her to save her from the rapists, or in any way suggesting she had the power to stop being raped, you are contributing to the rape culture.
If you think “she didn’t say no, so she wasn’t really raped,” fuck you, and you are contributing to the rape culture.
If you think boys were just being boys, you are contributing to the rape culture.
If you think we need to teach women how not to be raped (because that’s 100% effective, amirite?), and don’t think we should be teaching men not to fucking rape in the first place, you are contributing to the rape culture.
That’s all I have the spoons for right now. If you have some points you’d like to add, drop ’em in the comments.*
*Fair warning, coming here and “playing devil’s advocate,” or being all “what about the menz” or “women lie all the time” isn’t going to be met with kindness. I’m not in a state of mind to give anyone the benefit of the doubt regarding their intentions, and I’m not going to apologize for that. My space, my rules. Be an asshat and I’ll take away your vowels.